Fear of the Unknown

Fear of the Unknown

Thinking back when I was going through my divorce and the emotions that came along with it. I really can't explain how painful this process was for me. What I can disclose is that I hadn't ever experienced that much pain before. My world as I knew it was turned upside down going through a divorce is extremely hard and emotionally draining. Change was knocking at my door and I was not ready to deal with it. I have always been afraid of change even if the situation was going from bad to good. The fear of the unknown stops me and makes me want to turn back to the familiar. I know what I had,  I just don’t know what I will get was one of my biggest fear. Should I turn back to what I have always known which is pain, rejection anger and most of all insecurities or should I move forward and trusting God was my one of my biggest struggle. One of my old friends told me that she had a vision that I was in the hall way and there were two doors one was closed and dark, the other one was open and was bright but something in me was focused on the closed dark door. My ex husband has even told me that I embraced pain as a way of life. That was then and this is now I have no reason to be afraid of the unknown because in God’s word in Jeremiah 29:11 11 For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. 

Moving ahead to something new is scary for everyone , doubt creeps in but it requires that we have faith that God is there every step of the way. My divorce is final and I have no choice but to trust that God’s Will for my life is for my good and I can't allow my emotions to send me into panic mode like I have no hope. When we allow our emotions to drive, we tend to do and say stupid stuff but if we stand firm on God’s Word we will see the victory. I received this verse this morning which is from Exodus 14:13 Moses answered the people, “Do not be afraid. Stand firm and you will see the deliverance the LORD will bring you today. The Egyptians you see today you will never see again. 14 The LORD will fight for you; you need only to be still.” not only did I receive this morning. In this verse I just replaced Egyptians with what I was going thru, so it said the pain I feel today I will never see again. So I just want to encourage you that whatever you are going thru that has you worried or in pain let it go and let God fight it for you. When you read further down in Exodus 14 15 Then the LORD said to Moses, “Why are you crying out to me? Tell the Israelites to move on. 16 Raise your staff and stretch out your hand over the sea to divide the water so that the Israelites can go through the sea on dry ground. 17 I will harden the hearts of the Egyptians so that they will go in after them. And I will gain glory through Pharaoh and all his army, through his chariots and his horsemen. God is telling us to move on and He will make a way out for us and He will allow our problems, trials and tribulations to come after us not to get us but so that He can get the Glory. I have to admit moving on to the next chapter in my life was scary but when I read the Word I have hope that He allowed me to go through this for my good but His Glory. As I was writing this, a text message came thru with the scripture Isaiah 43:19 19 See, I am doing a new thing! Now it springs up; do you not perceive it? I am making a way in the wilderness and streams in the wasteland. God is so amazing!! He is with us in our darkest moments please just know that.  Trust and believe what God is doing in your life. 

Be Blessed!!

Chinese water torture

Attn:

Chinese water torture is a process in which water is slowly dripped onto a person's forehead, allegedly driving the restrained victim insane. Women if you are constantly nagging your husband (boyfriend) this could be consider torture and will eventually drive him to brink of insanity. Proverbs 27:15 A continual dropping in a very rainy day and a contentious woman are alike. I been there, done that it doesn't work. Here are two definitions that are important
1. nagging- To annoy by constant scolding, complaining, or urging.
2. contentious- tending to argue or quarrel
If your using one or both of these method to get your spouse (boyfriend) right . PLEASE STOP IT FOR THE SAKE OF HIS INSANITY OR YOUR MARRIAGE (Relationship). It is not your job to get anyone right but SELF. Go to God and leave His job to Him. Focus on what He has called you to do which is to respect your spouse. I dont care if you had been doing it for five minutes or 15 years it needs to stop today. Your house should be contentious free and a no nagging zone. As a woman, I don't want to compared to a rainy day because sometimes too much rain shuts things down, it can destroy and besides that you cant build anything in the rain. Trust me when I say when you stop the nagging and start praying Watch God Move in your Marriage.

Men if you see this in your wife (girlfriend) pray for her to be delivered from that spirit and while you are praying please ask God to help you discern between nagging and addressing concerns there is a difference and if she is addressing concerns she has that right. If a woman feels that she has to nag you to get something done then it is a communication breakdown some where and as the leader of your home it is your responsibility to address it.

Be encouraged it is never too late to begin again.

God Bless

just a thought ruth

Attn: Ladies i was reading Ruth 3, when Naomi was giving Ruth instructions on how to get Boaz's attention. Ruth did everything Naomi told her to do and in the end Ruth was blessed with Boaz. I noticed some things about Ruth, one Ruth had to be open to the advice, two she had a heart to consider the advice and three she was humble enough to accept the advice and lastly she had enough faith to apply the advice. Going thru relationship issues, looking for your Boaz? Are you willing to be like Ruth? Opening your mind to change, having the heart consider the change, be humble enough acceptting that change is needed and lastly faithfully applying the change. Wanting something different requires doing something different. Just a thought!!

God Bless

just a thought

I was at walmart and saw something I thought was great it looked really cool but when I got it home I had buyers remorse at first I was like man I am stuck with this and then a friend told me to take it back I said i opened it she said walmart takes anything back likewise if we sin we dont have to be stuck we can repent to God he will accept us back i didnt have my receipt the only thing that saved me was it was an exclusive item that Walmart sold you see God knows his product. God Bless

extreme makeover

Do you guys remember the Extreme Makeover show when people who had issues with their looks and they had a chance to get a makeover some major and some minor. Do you remember the surgery and the pain that they endured? Do you remember the final reveal at the end of the show? Well I just want to encourage you that whatever stage you are in, the final reveal is worth every bit of pain that you have endured or you are enduring. Just know that God is the master of Extreme Makeovers. God Bless

Wilderness is not livable it is survivable!!

Wilderness is not livable it is survivable!!

I understand that a lot of people especially men want to give honor to their survival skills.  They say things like I am a survivor.  I understand that we sometimes hit a wilderness situation in our lives and we have no choice but to survive.  I truly believe a lot of our people just start unpacking in the wilderness, they think this is it, but that is so far from the truth I truly think we delay our own promise land moments because of ignorance, fear, disobedience, complaining and just lack of faith.  What should have taken Israelites to make the journey was one –two weeks but it took them forty years.  Some of them died in the wilderness.  I don’t want any of my loved ones to die in the wilderness nor do I want any of my brothers and sisters in Christ.  It is so possible for that to happen if one you think this is it that you were only meant to survive life or two we are so busy complaining or being disobedient and really don’t want to submit to the Will of God. 

One of my major concerns are a lot of us are not going to be able to make it because we don’t either know the word or we know the word but don’t do the word.. Jesus came back to give us life and more abundantly he didn’t come back just for you to say you survived life.  No you live life and your survive the storms in your life.  To all of my people who are living in the wilderness and say that you are soldier and you r a suvivor I hate to be the barrrier of the bad news you only are considered to be a survior when you come out,   until then no don’t have any more bragging rights about you being a survior.  We are more than survivors we are Victorious people but you would not know that until you get in Gods Word and apply it to your lives. Wilderness is not a livable place.  It shouldn’t ever be your final destination no matter what. God allows us to go thru the wilderness sometimes not to punish us or to see us suffering but as preparation.  And of course some of us take the wrong turns in life that leads us to the wilderness but be encouraged He is with us in the wilderness and He will be with us in the promise land.  I love you guys and want you to know that there is more to life than just barely surviving.   The Word says” My people perish from a lack of knowledge”. Get into His Word so you can start living your life as God intended you to.  No more long trips in the wilderness, do not get comfortable in wilderness like situations. That is temporary.  Your promise land is just a week or two away!  It is all about Trusting God!!

God Bless

The Fall

The FALL
Genesis ² The woman said to the serpent, “We may eat fruit from the trees in the garden, ³ but God did say, ‘You must not eat fruit from the tree that is in the middle of the garden, and you must not touch it, or you will die.’ ⁴  You will not certainly die,” the serpent said to the woman. ⁵ “For God knows that when you eat from it your eyes will be opened, and you will be like God, knowing good and evil.”  ⁶ When the woman saw that the fruit of the tree was good for food and pleasing to the eye, and also desirable for gaining wisdom, she took some and ate it. She also gave some to her husband, who was with her, and he ate it. ⁷ Then the eyes of both of them were opened, and they realized they were naked; so they sewed fig leaves together and made coverings for themselves.
When looking at these scriptures I recognized a couple of things

1.       Eve told the serpent way to much information she entertained him with a conversation that should have never taken place.  How many inappropriate conversations that we may have had? A simple conversation with the wrong person can lead to a path to destruction which can be adultery, fornication, drug use, or anything else that can separate you from God.

2.      The serpent sounded so convincing and knew God’s Word and twisted them to get her to bite.  How many serpents in our lives sound good, some of them might even know God’s word and don’t care if we are separated from God? They say things like, It is ok we can have sex because we love each other, or it is ok if we can shack up, it is ok to do what you want to do God will understand and He wants us to be happy.

3.      Eve wanted to be like God knowing good and evil, problem with that is God knew we couldn’t handle it.  When they ate the apple their perspective changed, what was normal to them at first has now turned into guilt and shame it was all because she wanted to have something that God never intended for her to have.  In order to know the difference between good and evil you have to experience them both and God doesn’t want to keep anything good away from us He just wanted to protect us from the evil or harm.  Just like any loving parent will do for their child. 

4.      When all the deeds has been done and they realized what they have done they take things into their own hands to fix it by trying to cover themselves like we do we try to make things right by justifying things.  I know it was wrong but, I did this because he did that, justification is just like the fig leaves is just covers the surface. God goes beyond the surface. 

Looking at this, the apple (temptation) I wanted to bite or touch doesn’t seem to be worth the scrapes and bruises, the spiritual disconnect that will occur after fall.  If you are faced with a tempting situation pray for guidance from the Lord, don’t be like Eve and entertain someone who wasn’t even on her level, wasn’t even her equal. Ask yourself is this temptation worth the possibility of changing your entire life or walk with Christ? Some falls you can walk away with minor injuries and recover from but there are also some falls that could paralyze you and your life will never be the same.  God bless!